Monday, July 28, 2008

Visits

So as we have visited various different people there are some rules with newborns that need to be observed that should not have to be spoken.
1. The parents are the parents and their word is the end of the argument, the rules they make you keep end of question. if you teach them bad behaviors at your house then they will have bad behaviors at our house.
2. With children keep talking to them positively, no negative comments about parents or other people.
3. Do not pressure other family members into having kids, it causes resentment towards that couple and child that is not needed.
4. Reward good behavior and ignore bad behavior by not making a big deal out of something that is small.
5. Don't expect to be entertained, it is a new born they don't do things that most other babies do, they sleep, eat and need diapers changed. They don't play games well and talking happens later in their life, please keep projections to yourself.
6. Parents are in what is called new baby fog, it causes parents to be more forgetful, sleepy and sometimes irritable. Be understanding, it takes time for a baby to sleep through the night.
7. Don't take things personal, be understanding and realize new parents are going through Hell trying to get a baby to sleep through the night.
8. Apply the Kindergarten rule, If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all.
9. Stay open to learning. Research is constantly expanding knowledge about what is most effective. For example, recent research pokes holes in the old theory that you'll spoil a baby if you pick them up when they cry. SIDS is a real fear for millions of parents each year nearly 3,000 die each year from this. Stay curious and join your kids in learning all you can.
10. Remember that the most powerful teaching anyone can do is by example. In a time when children are desperately in need of adults who will teach them virtue, let your life be that lesson.
11. Do not to take over and do things your way.
12. Avoid hogging the infant. As much as you love your new grandbaby, it’s important for Mom to bond with her. Your job is to help her do that in whatever way you can.
13. Don’t insist that what worked for you is going to work for her. Go ahead and offer advice, but don’t get upset if it’s rejected.
14. Refrain from bringing up old hurts. Now is a healing time for the family.
15. Avoid inviting several of your friends to see the baby at once. You’ll have plenty of chances to show off your adorable grandbaby when she’s a little older.

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If you cant say anything nice, then dont say anything at all--Bambi